Reconciliation in Corporate Worship

If you . . . remember that your brother has something against you . . . —Matthew 5:23

In my devotions this morning I was lead to Oswald Chambers and the above scripture.  I have been leading Worship for over 15 years now.  During each time, I have found myself in conflict with the unappeasable.  These are the people described below:

1. Unappeasable. This means they can’t come to covenant. If you wrong them, there’s nothing you can ever do to appease their wrath and anger. There are people in the church who are energized by conflict. No matter how many times you meet with them to resolve a dispute, it isn’t going to help matters because the conflict gives them joy.

As I thought about the unappeasables in my lifetime, I look back with regret on how my attention to those ruined my worship.  Rather than being a woman of God and creating service flow out of my confidence and hope and faith and trust that God would mold all the pieces together - I worried about the unappeasables and their demands.  "Not enough hymns, "too flashy - hate the new lighting - this isn't a show!" "So and so has such a great voice - why don't they do more specials?"  "As a worship pastor you need to accept what I can give and be happy with the small amount of time I give to you.  Don't put demands on me."  "I didn't like what you did in a situation and because of that I will never forgive you, but will tear you down until you cannot stand."

Anything like this ever happen to you?  If you are called to lead worship for a congregation and you have the unappeasables and the posers and the creepers biting at your heels, how do you overcome that?

First of all - remember one very important thing.  IT ISN'T ABOUT YOU.  It would not matter who you were.  You could be Jesus Himself and if they didn't like what you had to say or the way you said it - the fight to tear you apart would begin.  I have had pastor's tell me to "build my army."  I hated that.  The thought that I would have to build an army of support to withstand the army of unappeasables was so very disgusting to me.  I would rather walk away than build an army of supporters.  How can an army help the church?  But on the other hand, how can the church continue to encourage and support the unappeasables who will go from person to person, pastor to pastor, thing to thing until they are no longer a part of this world?  It is beyond me why we support this kind of person in the church but fail to support the non believer.  But I digress.

As a worship leader your role is not to focus on the unappeasables.  Because what they desire from you will never ever be enough.  So stop.  Bring them to the altar of God.  Pray for them daily. Take the situation to your pastor and staff and make them aware of your desire to pray that God would place a new spirit on them.  Don't suffer alone.  Make the situation public in staff meetings.  Ask for advice - and declare your honor and integrity by fervent prayer for them.

Ask God to reveal to you the truth in the unappeasable's actions and words.  No situation is one sided.  Always be willing to accept your responsibility and your role in reconciliation.  BUT - keep this out of corporate worship.  Unless God specifically gives you direction do not appease them.  They will only want more.  And you as a leader will only be seen as weak when you allow them to dominate your ministry.

Loved ones, the act of leading worship is such an extravagant gift that we should always be on our knees in humble acceptance of our role.  It is not ourselves that lead in worship - but it is Christ in us who leads His people in worship.  Never, ever get those two things confused.  You are not God.  You cannot move people.  You cannot appease.  God in the power of His Holy Spirit is the One who will move on His people.  You are a tool for His use.  Accept your role and honor Him with your worship.

Be blessed today, and remember that God will make a way.  No matter what is happening, or what has happened...God will make a way for you.

Cathy

This Is My Desire - To Pour Out My Love On You. Intentionally Seeking the Lost.

Living a life of worship means being poured out, not because God calls us to, but because Jesus poured out His Love for us!  Yes!  Think of the worship of Jesus on the Cross.  Bloody, naked, bruised, pierced and in worship crying out for the lost.  Using His last breath not to condemn but to encourage and to ask His Father to forgive -" for they know not what they are doing."  God's only desire is for the lost.

Those of us who claim a life of worship should be mindful that we are called to do the same as Christ while we still have breath in this life.  We are called to care for the lost.  "But there are so many people and it is overwhelming to think about how to share the message with so many!"  Mother Teresa had an answer for that.  She said not to worry about numbers, but to encourage the one that is nearest to you.

Who is nearest to you dear hearts?  You desire to proclaim the good news of Christ?  Wonderful!  Carve your set lists.  Pray about your pastor's text. Use a process to select music that will lift and inspire your congregation.  Just remember that at the heart of all works is one thing - to be poured out love on the lost.

If all we do as women of worship is motivated by seeking the lost - how will that change the way we select music?  How will that change the elements that we put into a Sunday morning service?  How will that change the choir special?

Music, Scripture, Prayer, the Word and Testimony.  Set your table on Sunday morning with intention.

Why are people lost?  What are they looking for?  What do they seek?  Where do they hurt?  What are their needs?

They say that people don't care what you know until they know that you care.  Think about Jesus.  How did Jesus care for the lost?  Make a list.  Do your homework.  Why did people listen to Jesus?
Why would people listen to you?

I was asked this weekend what my favorite song is.  People ask that and I guess I am strange because I don't have favorites.  Right now I am listening to Misty Edwards and her song from a couple of years ago
"I Pour My Love"                http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sgQ_TqugyZI

Here are the Lyrics:

I don't know how to say exactly how I feel
And I can't begin to tell You what Your love has meant
I'm lost for words
Is there a way to show the passion in my heart
Can I express how truly great I think You are
You're my dearest friend

Lord this is my desire to pour my love on You

[CHORUS:]
Like oil upon Your feet
Like wine for You to drink
Life water from my heart
I pour my love on You
If praise is like perfume
I lavish mine on You
Till every drop is gone
I pour my love on You

Is there a way to show the passion in my heart
Can I express how truly great I think You are,
My dearest friend

Lord this is my desire to pour my love on You

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Hope this is inspiring in some way to you worship leaders this morning - and most importantly that it causes you to think intentionally about what you do, what you pray for, and your will.

Last question:  Who is lost and seeking in your life right now? Who is hurt and broken? Start with that person.

A Set List of Praise and Assurance.

He said, "Can I not do with you, Israel, as this potter does?" declares the LORD. "Like clay in the hand of the potter, so are you in my hand, Israel. Jeremiah 18:6


This week I have the awesome privilege of leading worship with a terrific group of musicians, singers and choir.  I am very excited. I asked the Pastor what he was preaching on and he gave me the text above emphasizing the theme of "putting God in charge of your future," a TERRIFIC sermon for me right now in this transition.  I thought I would share my set list with you and some of my thoughts behind it.

Opening Song - Power in the Blood - medium tempo bluesy feel.

*Because this church is very blended, I chose a familiar hymn with a different rhythm style.  We start right out proclaiming that through the Blood of Jesus Christ WE have POWER over sin.  The song is affirming and reminding us where our strength comes from.

Welcome etc.

Indescribable- I chose this song because once again it reminds us of the awesome power of God.  If God made all of Creation how can we not give Him all praise?

Hosanna - Another song about the majesty of the King - with the wonderful middle kicker - break my heart and make it clean, open up my eyes to the things unseen, show me how to love like You have loved me etc.  Here we segue into our submission to God and recognizing that He must be at the forefront.  A song of submission.

We Declare Your Majesty - After such a song of submission and heart cry we once again lifted our voices to declare the mighty power of God and the final line "in adoration we bow before your throne."

Finally - The Kari Jobe version off the new Hymn CD Be Still My Soul - In You I Rest.  This song is very personal - simple, quiet and contemplative.  It allows the congregation to settle themselves and reminds us that in order to put God first we must Be Still and trust.

As I was preparing this set list and found the song by Jobe I went to Youtube and the first comment that was listed was from a young woman who had been contemplating suicide (no reason given).  She shared this with readers: "I turned on pandora to listen to some piano music because I felt stressed like I couldn't take it anymore and the piano piece of this came on. I looked it up to hear the lyrics. ...the coincidence that this had to be the song I'd hear right after thinking about suicide. Wow. Chills go through me. I think this is a message".

My lead in to the song:

"How appropriate as many young people contemplate suicide because of the stress in their lives from the world.  Allowing Jesus to shape our future is the message Pastor has for us today.  As we sing this song this morning - allow yourself to be still of all thoughts or anxieties you have and let Shepherd minister to you today through His Word."

I hope someone somewhere benefits from the process I use to create a worship service.  Always keep three things in mind.

1.  Select music that supports the Pastor's text.  Don't preach the message for him, but set the table well.

2.  When unsure of the churches "style", ask and then stay on the slightly more conservative side.  Unless you are there to "perform" a concert - keep it simple, beautiful, and easy to participate in.

3.  Create to the worship ministries strengths.  I did my homework and found out that they have tremendous vocalists and highly gifted musicians.  Knowing this, it allowed me to choose songs with key changes and big vocal "lifts" that would work with less skilled musicians, but would take longer to learn.  I have one hour to rehearse all songs with the band and singers.

Feel free to leave any comments below or on my Facebook Page!

Blessings this week and may you ALL have a great outpouring of the Holy Spirit in your Worship this Week!

Cathy

Worship Made Spiritual through Discipline.

"Practical work for Christians is greatly overemphasized today, and the saints who are “bringing every thought [and project] into captivity” are criticized and told that they are not determined, and that they lack zeal for God or zeal for the souls of others. But true determination and zeal are found in obeying God, not in the inclination to serve Him that arises from our own undisciplined human nature. It is inconceivable, but true nevertheless, that saints are not “bringing every thought [and project] into captivity,” but are simply doing work for God that has been instigated by their own human nature, and has not been made spiritual through determined discipline."  Oswald Chambers

As women and worship leaders, we have a variety of conflicting desires that all must be brought under God's discipline.  Listed below are some of the things to watch out for and prepare for.

1.  Beware of choosing songs because they are catchy, popular on the radio or because you feel you could MOVE the congregation with your singing.  The choice of song for worship should do one thing - bring the presence of the Holy Spirit to the forefront of every person's mind.  Some may complain when the same lyrics are repeated over and over (and that can be true) but the name of Jesus?  You can never overuse His Name.  Discipline yourself to listen to songs that are not mainstream, that are easy to sing and that put Jesus at the forefront.

2.  In the days of Elijah and King David worship was celebrated first with VOICES, then with instruments and dancing.  Instruments should never overpower the words to a song or hymn.  Likewise fancy playing should never call attention away from the words of the song.  Enhancing the words should always be the goal.  If you cannot make out the words, if it is hard for a good singer to get all the words in the song, forget it.  Don't make worship singing HARD for your congregation.  Find another avenue for your gifted players to challenge themselves on complicated music.

3.  Take the worship music somewhere by selecting appropriate flow.  You can create flow with scripture reading, transitions from song to song using piano and guitar or other instruments, a poem, a reading, a dance.  Select keys that ramp up the worship in praise.  Start with a Bb song - then find a C or D to follow than jump to F or G.  To bring the atmosphere back down select a lower key signature.

4.  Allow SPACE for people to encounter the Spirit of God.  Have silence after a particularly worship filled moment....let the piano or synth continue on lightly for a minute and then go into the next song, or share a prayer.  The congregation does not need to be engaged in singing every moment  - but they do need the space to be engaging in His Spirit every moment.

5.  Finally, be disciplined in your love for your team.  Make sure you let each one know from the moment they walk into the church and you see them - that you love them, care for them, want the best for them, and have been praying for them.  At the end of each service do the same thing.  Provide a touch for each person who has served in the service that day.  From all the tech folk to the ushers greeters etc.  If you are too busy to do this? Than you are too busy with the wrong things.  Discipline your time on Sundays to do the best things, not just the good things.

You are a woman and you love Jesus.  You have sung in the choir and praise teams, or maybe played piano or an instrument.  You've lead a bible study or worked with teens.  You've been involved in your church as a volunteer and you are sold out to God.  The current worship pastor leaves for another church and your senior pastor talks to you about coming on staff full time.  Before you say , YES! on NO WAY!  Let me help you walk through the process of what it means to be called into full time ministry.

1.  Most importantly - is GOD calling you into full time ministry?  What evidence do you have that this is your call?  How do you feel when you sing or play for Him?  Do you love to rehearse?  Do you find yourself wanting to spend more and more time in rehearsal or listening and rehearsing music at home?  Why do you think that God might be calling you?  In the quiet times when you are meditating and praying - has God shared a glimpse of His future for you?

Ministry is one of the hardest things you will ever do - and if you truly do not feel called to staff full time ministry - don't let a needy pastor fill a slot because he needs someone fast.  

You do your own personal investigation on your knees, on your face.  Ask other people if they could see you leading worship.  And lastly does the thought of it quicken your heart with joy?  Are you scared, overwhelmed and jumping up and down with joy all at the same time?  Yeah....He's calling you :-)

2.  As you work out the specifics of how your transition into the position will take place make sure that you get some things ironed out right up front with your senior pastor and have your husband or mother or father or another church member sit with you.  Get a clear understanding of what your salary will be and what your benefits will be.  At my first church my mileage was not reimbursed, as a result I was spending quiet a bit of money on gasoline making hospital visits and it was coming right out of my own pocket.  You can deduct it on your taxes, but it still comes out of your pocket.

Find out about hours.  What is expected each week,  Are you expected to work Saturdays?  Sunday is a work day and so typically you should get a day during the week and Sat. as days off.  Make sure you are clear on hours.  Average hours are about 50 - 60 a week.

Find out what the worship budget is.  How much money do they allow you to be responsible for for ordering music, paying for music subscriptions and repair and replacement of instruments. Total miinistry expenses can expect to be about 20 - 25% of total income taken in.  If you have a $300,000 budget you can expect a share of $60,000 which would be distributed among all the ministry areas.  Be sure and ask if you have input into the budget each year.

Your cell phone, as well as mileage, hospitality, gifts and continuing education should be included.  If you are married and they offer paid health care and you don't need it - negotiate the cost it would be costing the church to carry a policy on you and ask them to put it into a tax saving plan.  You get part of the money and the church benefits by not having to pay for your family health care.

3.  Find out about vacation and try to negotiate an extra week off (paid).  It is much easier to give a staff member a week off than it is to increase their salary - and believe me, your first year you will appreciate that extra week.  I negotiated 3 weeks my first year and was so grateful for it.

4.  Be prepared to moved.  Yep.  Just because you are a worship pastor in your home church does not mean that you will stay there.  The average tenure for associate pastors is 4 - 5 years.  Your senior pastor may leave, and when they do in most districts you are required to resign.  You can be hired back by the board, but you still have to fit in with the new person.  God may have another place of ministry for you which requires a move across the country.  You must be prepared to go at any time if you are going into church ministry as a full time staff person.  If you cannot make this promise to yourself - then you need to question the move to full time staff.  I'm just trying to be real and save you some heartache later on.

5.  All churches are different but most have good intentions towards their staff.  Be friendly to all, don't show favoritism and find as many excuses to get involved in their lives as you can.  Ask them over, go to their kids recitals, ask them to lunch or coffee, or just send them a note or phone call.  People are not going to listen to you until they know you care.  So your first months will be spent in fellowship and listening.

6.  Practice how you are going to handle the tough questions.  You know the ones.  The music is too loud.  Why don't we do more hymns?  Why can't I play trumpet in the band?  My 5 year old is a genius singer, when can we get him up there?  And on and on and on.  Be prepared on how you are going to answer these kinds of questions so you don't get thrown off balance when they come at you.

7.  Whatever you do - whatever happens - don't lose your cool.  You are on the platform on a Sunday and have a major train wreck because the piano player and the drummer are playing no attention at all and have copped an attitude.  Respond in love.  Remember it takes 10 positives before you share a negative with someone. And keep things in perspective.  You felt hung out to dry and embarrassed - but most peopled don't notice much.What they will notice is how you handle the situation.

8.  Don't go in with the attitude that you are the "fixer."  Most people don't think they need fixed even if they voice that they do.  What they want to hear is how they can continue to contribute, how they aren't going on the shelf and how you are going to be a good pastor to them.

9.  Get to know your sound and tech folk and be there best friends.  If you want cooperation - they need to be a part of the team and not just the "behind the scenes folks."  It will go a long way if you are able to at least speak their language - and if you don't have a clue - ask them if they would train you - or go out on youtube and learn on your own.

10.  Always remember that your senior pastor is your leader.  He is the one to look to, to make look good, to support and to encouraged.  He was hired to be the shepherd of the church and he is hiring YOU to help him do that.  Figure out his leadership style and then do your best to compliment that.  Offer to be a part of things outside of your worship area.  Dress the stage. Work with the children's or youth's choir.  And if you are a women - JOIN THE WOMEN"S GROUP.  Whether you enjoy women's groups or you don't - you would be well favored by showing up and supporting any and all women's activities.  Women support women.  Nuff said.

Well that will give you a start if you find yourself in that position of being called by God in your local church.  Feel free to leave me a comment or question below or private message me at cwoolaway@yahoo.com.

Bless you in your search for God's Will in your life.

Cathy

Women and Worship -Introduction

My name is Cathy and for the past 15 years I have been a worship leader and student of worship.  In the last few months I have discovered a need for women to embrace one another and support one another in ministry.  I love women and I especially love women who worship.  So this is my philosophy of ministry to get the first blog started and I would love to hear from you!  If you could share this BLOG with others and leave comments below, that would encourage me to continue blogging and sharing about women in ministry and women in worship.  Selah.

Our Philosophy of Ministry

     I believe that God calls true worshipers to full-time Godly service. My understanding of

a true worshiper is one who lives in His presence and worships as the Bible says in “spirit and in truth.” (John 4:24) I believe that worship ministry is a way that we walk with Him daily and that we bring ourselves into obedience through His Word. I believe that we should delight in the Lord above all other things, to place Him above anything else in our lives. It means not to serve out of duty – but rather to serve Him out of a love that flows from our heart.

     We read in the scripture where Jesus rebukes the Pharisees who served God out of duty rather than out of love, "these people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me. They worship me in vain; their teachings are but rules taught by men." ( Mark 7:6-7) Worship that is pleasing to God is worship that
overflows from a daily walk and life of worship.

     The true worshiping church puts a priority on making disciples. I believe that pointing people to Him is our foremost responsibility in worship. I believe that everyone who participates in worship ministry
should be doing so out of their desire to know Him more, their desire to be more like Him, their desire to see other’s come to know Him and out of doing their very best – not because He demands it – but because
of our intense desire to please Him with the talents and abilities He has given us.  This means that we will play skillfully and keep our talents sharp through rehearsal, through continued education, through
following leadership and by listening to the critique of leadership and following the vision of our leaders.

It is true that we cannot remove true worship from our obedience to Him.  And love is at the heart of Jesus teaching.  If we love Him, we will obey His commands (John 14:15).  So also we will love our neighbor as ourselves (Matthew 22:39).  As a true worshiper we must allow Christ to reign over us not just in word but also in actions.

Worship at the heart is to surrender and to bow down before Him.  To choose to give our will to Him that He will use it for His divine purpose.  Revelation 4:10-11 reads “the 24 elders bow down and worship
in front of the one who sits on the throne, the one who lives forever and ever. They throw their victor's crowns in front of the throne and say,

“You are worthy, our Lord and God, to receive glory, honor, and power, because you created all things; they came into existence and were created because of your will.”

These elders are casting down their wealth or everything symbolically of value before Him. When we worship in spirit and in truth God requires a new birth and our journey with Jesus begins with worship,
ends with worship and forever more as it reads in Revelation will continue in worship for infinity.

My desire in worship ministry is to see a church filled with people who love to worship freely in spirit and in truth – not because it is a mandate – but because it overflows from a heart that is full of love.
My desire in worship ministry is for every worship experience we offer to our congregation to be focused on Jesus and to do everything we can to take away distractions that would inhibit the work of the Holy
Spirit from reaching our people.

I believe in God, Christ – the son, and the Holy Spirit.  That these three are one.

I believe that Jesus came as man, was crucified and died on a cross for our sin.

I believe that Jesus rose again on the third day and ascended to heaven where he sits at the right hand of the Father.

I believe that those who call Him Lord and Savior will one day be taken into heaven and live with Him worshiping Him in spirit and in truth.

I believe worship is at the heart of loving Christ.

Cathy L Woolaway